About Tamil Culture

Please see here

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1298218,curpg-1.cms

Don't speak the truth in Chennai. And don't behave like you are living in a 21st century Indian metro. Movie star Khushboo did that and is now paying a heavy and heart-rending price for it.

And just what did the actor do? She said, rather innocuously, that men should no more expect their brides to be virgins. She also said that when youngsters indulge in premarital sex, they should use protection.

Anywhere else, Khushboo would have been called an anti-AIDS spokesperson and perhaps even feted but not Tamil Nadu

The last lines impress me.............. NOT TAMIL NADU (Though the writer meant something else)

Of course, That is why we pride in Tamil Culture......

Kushboo would ahve been feted even in tamil nadu if she had told something else in the likes of "it is safe for girls NOT to indulge in premarital sex", but she choose the wrong option and is paying the price

The question does not arise about AIDS ... No where it is given (believe me, I have even searched in Harrison and Jawetz) that premarital sex with Condoms is a good sign. The basic dictum is asking some one to be safe.

The question here is morality. Pre marital sex (or extra marital sex) is against religion, against culture and against basic morality. In such as scenario the words given out by Kushboo have to be strongly condemned.

Now coming to the Newspaper article I have quoted, the person obviously does not know the realities

Don't speak the truth in Chennai.

The truth is that a predominant percent of people in Tamil Nadu still follow the culture and heritage of the state. What Kushboo said may be the truth in Bomaby (the native place of both the actress as well as the newspaper author), but it is NOT the truth in Chennai.

There is nothing that is universally "correct" or "wrong". Nor there is something that is "good" every where and "bad" every where

Please keep in mind what is "correct" in Tokyo may not be "correct" in Trichi. And what is good in "Belgium" may be bad in "Bangalore". What LTTE does is correct to the people of Eelam, but that seems wrong to the Singalese. What Microsoft does is "correct" as far as they are concerned, but you and me have other opinions

The right to expression is not an unconditional right and has to be interpreted with reference to TIME, PLACE and PERSON, and this is what Kushboo missed and this is what so many North Indian Media miss

And don't behave like you are living in a 21st century Indian metro.

Unfortunately, Kushboo said "Tamil Girls" and not "Bombay girls"..... Of course She Should not Behave like she is in Bombay when she is in Tamil Nadu

Movie star Khushboo did that and is now paying a heavy and heart-rending price for it.

If you do some thing wrong, you have to pay a price for it. What is to worry. The problem is that What Kushboo said may be "Correct" in certain places and may be "correct" to certain people [may be Sundar.C can tolerate her "enjoying" with Prabhu in an overseas culture program AFTER HER FIRST BABY (with Sundar) was born, but it is naive to expect that all tamilians are like him], but it is "Wrong" in Tamil Nadu and most of Tamilians

Update : See http://www.askenni.com/archives/2005/11/the_abstract_co.html for a meaningful post that say premarital sex and premarital sexual intercourse are different. Agreed !!! But what is the use of Condoms while kissing.

This is what I liked the most

The process of getting a person till laying him/her down takes at least 6 months of continuous hard effort. With so many problems attached to a 5 minute pleasure, both men & women so very tired that they decide to get married to each other or someone else to at least have sex with free minds.

I am surely not talking about the 1 or 2 per cent of men and women who due to some psychological problem get up one fine morning and decide that they are going to break their virginity today, just because his/her friend did it yesterday. I am referring to the people who form the core of the Indian society, and who belong to the major chunk.

So what are you doing .... GO to http://www.askenni.com/archives/2005/11/the_abstract_co_1.html#more and read the full post